Comments on: Dates Schmates https://www.mrshappyhomemaker.com/dates-schmates/ Where Old Fashioned and Modern Day Collide Fri, 12 Apr 2019 16:18:16 +0000 hourly 1 By: Valerie https://www.mrshappyhomemaker.com/dates-schmates/#comment-97394 https://mrshappyhomemaker64452.e.wpstage.net/?p=24725#comment-97394 Crystal, You have been so strong and courageous in sharing your grief. It is a hard and exhausting journey, to be a widow. It has been 11 years since I lost my husband when he was only 50 and I was 45. I relate to everything you have said here. You are not alone and I believe in you, too. Thank you for having the ability to verbalize the feelings that are so overwhelming. I love how you said, “It might be stormy now, but it can’t rain forever.” There is hope for clear skies.

]]> By: Linda https://www.mrshappyhomemaker.com/dates-schmates/#comment-96935 https://mrshappyhomemaker64452.e.wpstage.net/?p=24725#comment-96935 Life is not easy, going through some stuff myself and finding myself crying constantly. Hard to function.

]]> By: Jan Farr https://www.mrshappyhomemaker.com/dates-schmates/#comment-96570 https://mrshappyhomemaker64452.e.wpstage.net/?p=24725#comment-96570 Crystal, back when your girls were toddlers, I formed a MIPS group (Mothers’ Intercessory & Prayer Support), and your Angel of a Mother was first to join. She was my rock, and I see so much of her in you!  We became choir buddies, and about 9 years ago she made me an Angel Coral bead bracelet that became a prayer chain to represent our daughters.  I have not taken it off in all those years!  I have celebrated your mountains and prayed you through your valleys, and always, always believed in your perseverance!  Life is a series of chapters, but we have the choice whether to turn the page and continue, or to revisit past chapters and mourn or rejoice on those pages previously turned.  You have the power to feed your soul as is needed.  I love how you bare that part of you in your blogs.  My private journals are testimonies to how I became who I am today, and I have taught myself to look back on the scars without opening the wounds.  Just this last month my daughter has been able to leave a very long journey through the valley and is climbing the mountain of Restoration!  I can finally see that her light in the tunnel is actually a beacon in the lighthouse that will shine to lead others to safety! You, too, have become a beacon of encouragement to so many and I am so proud of you! Whenever in doubt, read our MIPS mantra:  Joel 2:25.  Blessings,  Ms Jan

]]> By: KARen https://www.mrshappyhomemaker.com/dates-schmates/#comment-96425 https://mrshappyhomemaker64452.e.wpstage.net/?p=24725#comment-96425 Jus wants to say thank you for sharing. 

]]> By: Melanie Nalepa https://www.mrshappyhomemaker.com/dates-schmates/#comment-96374 https://mrshappyhomemaker64452.e.wpstage.net/?p=24725#comment-96374 I often read your posts and think how strong and brave you are! Even the name of your blog tugs at my heart… you never expected that you’d be anything but a happy married homemaker and now you’ve found yourself walking down a road no one would ever choose to travel. You are an amazing woman and you deserve to feel sad when grief overtakes you and to restore your self in your own time. Anyone who tells you it’s just a date hasn’t known the sorrow and loss you feel… everyday, but most poignantly on certain days. I’m glad you were able to give yourself the special care you needed to get you through this day!! ((HUGS))

]]> By: GAyle https://www.mrshappyhomemaker.com/dates-schmates/#comment-96372 https://mrshappyhomemaker64452.e.wpstage.net/?p=24725#comment-96372 *God, not good

]]> By: Gayle P. W. https://www.mrshappyhomemaker.com/dates-schmates/#comment-96369 https://mrshappyhomemaker64452.e.wpstage.net/?p=24725#comment-96369 You are stronger than you realize, I know that your Michael’s are so proud of you!  Wow, so very powerful and beautifully written.  I needed to read this tonight (this morning), a good bump!  Thanks for sharing.

]]> By: Ren https://www.mrshappyhomemaker.com/dates-schmates/#comment-96364 https://mrshappyhomemaker64452.e.wpstage.net/?p=24725#comment-96364 Wow! So very sorry! I lost my husband when I was 34. So hard, send love and healing

]]> By: Susan the Farm Quilter https://www.mrshappyhomemaker.com/dates-schmates/#comment-96361 https://mrshappyhomemaker64452.e.wpstage.net/?p=24725#comment-96361 “They” say time heals all wounds. I say “they” lie. With time, yes the intense, gut-ripping pain does ease (most of the time), but just like the ocean waves, there are those “sneakers” who come out of the blue and lay you flat. It will eventually get to the place where the pond is generally placid, but still beware the sneakers. The road you were on has taken a turn you weren’t expecting and it has become narrower; the life-plan you had laid out in your mind has to change with the changes in the road…scary, unknown and without the partner you depended on. Your strength is far greater than you think as you walk through each day. Care for yourself, you deserve to be pampered, and be gentle with yourself as you find your way through the maze.

]]> By: Diana G https://www.mrshappyhomemaker.com/dates-schmates/#comment-96359 https://mrshappyhomemaker64452.e.wpstage.net/?p=24725#comment-96359 I thought the anniversary was coming up as I signed on in 2014 and remember all you have gone through since. I just want to say : do your thing-grieve as long as you need to , be angry, be you !!!! You and your family have gone through alot ..

I am here if you need someone to talk to (and no I am not a Carol Burnett Stalker!! hahahahahaha, but I did love her show !!). Hugs dear lady !

]]> By: Christy Larkin https://www.mrshappyhomemaker.com/dates-schmates/#comment-96357 https://mrshappyhomemaker64452.e.wpstage.net/?p=24725#comment-96357 ]]> Thank you so muchfor sharing!! I just shared your post. So meaningful and beautiful! Thank you again…it’s not a pitty-party it’s HELPING 💞

]]> By: Ann https://www.mrshappyhomemaker.com/dates-schmates/#comment-96352 https://mrshappyhomemaker64452.e.wpstage.net/?p=24725#comment-96352 I have not been through what you are going through, at least not in losing your husband. I am praying for you as you walk through this journey. I agree, it is different for everyone,  this grief journey. Praying you will sense God’s presence and comfort and peace.

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