Comments on: Strength Comes Later https://www.mrshappyhomemaker.com/strength-comes-later/ Where Old Fashioned and Modern Day Collide Fri, 16 Sep 2016 05:53:36 +0000 hourly 1 By: Terri S. https://www.mrshappyhomemaker.com/strength-comes-later/#comment-62116 https://mrshappyhomemaker64452.e.wpstage.net/?p=11174#comment-62116 Crystal …
Yes. You are so right!
It’s also very hard to try & explain that– –to people who are going thru “things” —( + what may be more than relevant to one person, may mean nothing to the next! )— *but* regardless, the Moral to the story is the same! ) The moral to the story is :
“When bad things happen, don’t be strong. Break. Fall apart. FEEL IT.
Being strong comes later.”
exactly αs you stated it! . . .
( I’ll add “Live It!” . . . )
I have a story…which is…eerily similar to yours, (except, rewind to 1995)—sans car accident—I lost my job, not my car! ~~ Then, it was my husband– (not only was I not at home, I was more than 1/2 across the U.S. …on business -for a new job! He was 41) & our kids were with Him! . . . Some years later, I was visiting my best friend in my hometown…I left on a Monday to come back home-only-to find out the next day, she had passed suddenly, the afternoon-of–the–day-I left! She was 52. Then, yep—it was my Dog … (a best 4-legged friend of 8-short years!) Then…within the next 9 months, I lost my Younger Brother—He was 48, & I Miss Him Dearly, ~~~just like αℓℓ the others! There’s more, here, get this—In between, those years ~ I also lost 2-very Dear Friends from High School!— There were four of us, who were very very close . . . Two, so Sadly, are now gone—(& that doesn’t include my Bestie, that I mentioned above! )
Αℓℓ were nothing short of devastating. My Heart was Shattered…Broken, over & over & over again~ 0ℏ my ~does *this* Ever End? THIS IS too much! . . .
And I believe that ev-1 -deals- w/these matters in different ways, ( there is absolutely No -Right Way- because, You found a way to put it into words—
The bottom line remains the same!
Feel It. (and) >Live It.
So, regardless of –how– you ‘deal’
…if you jump back into your work . . . or …if you take 3-months off . . .

“When bad things happen, don’t be strong. Break. Fall apart. FEEL IT.
Being strong comes later.”

LIVE IT! . . .
It’s true, and, ~ is actually part of the “stages” of grief . . . YOU found a good way to put it into words!

My Aunt ( RIP ~ I Love You Aunt LoLo! ) used to tell me…
“This Too, Shall Pass” . . .
Yes, it’s so true, and she Was Right! . . .
>but that doesn’t mean to sweep –it– under the rug until it does . . .
Live it, Feel it, & it just might ‘pass’ sooner rather than later! . . .

Thank you Crystal, for sharing your story . . . I thought I was the only one who was bombarded by death and sadness . . . ( it helps to know that one is not alone in αℓℓ this, too! ) t/y ~ I wish You αℓℓ the best in the future!
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]]> By: Valerie https://www.mrshappyhomemaker.com/strength-comes-later/#comment-62052 https://mrshappyhomemaker64452.e.wpstage.net/?p=11174#comment-62052 It’s been over eight years since I lost my husband. It’s so hard to grieve so intensely, it is so painful. Cry, scream, pray, do whatever you have to to get through it.
My heart is with you with love in our unwanted sisterhood.

]]> By: Darla Carroll https://www.mrshappyhomemaker.com/strength-comes-later/#comment-62049 https://mrshappyhomemaker64452.e.wpstage.net/?p=11174#comment-62049 Wish I had known you and this way back when I was going through all of this. All the best to you!

]]> By: Tina Holloway https://www.mrshappyhomemaker.com/strength-comes-later/#comment-62047 https://mrshappyhomemaker64452.e.wpstage.net/?p=11174#comment-62047 I am so sorry you and your family had to go through all of that. I just lost my husband of 35 years last month. And I can’t imagine adding everything else in the mix. I pray this is a better year for your family.

]]> By: Billie Culpepper Crane https://www.mrshappyhomemaker.com/strength-comes-later/#comment-62046 https://mrshappyhomemaker64452.e.wpstage.net/?p=11174#comment-62046 We have to grieve, just have to. And then when we think we are about done with that, well, then we try to start living again. It is hard, very hard, but we go on.

]]> By: Lorianne https://www.mrshappyhomemaker.com/strength-comes-later/#comment-62043 https://mrshappyhomemaker64452.e.wpstage.net/?p=11174#comment-62043 My heart hurt for your loss when you first posted about it. My prayers have been for peace and strength and love and support for you and your children. There are many stages we go through after a loss of this magnitude. We all do it in our own way. I praise God that you’ve come through the thick murky mud and are now walking more freely. The loss is never far from mind but getting by day after day brings on more and more strength. You have touched many with your words and recipes and are greatly appreciated!! Thank you for sharing. God bless!!!

]]> By: Maria Collado https://www.mrshappyhomemaker.com/strength-comes-later/#comment-62040 https://mrshappyhomemaker64452.e.wpstage.net/?p=11174#comment-62040 Stay strong and God Bless

]]> By: OhBeeBee https://www.mrshappyhomemaker.com/strength-comes-later/#comment-62039 https://mrshappyhomemaker64452.e.wpstage.net/?p=11174#comment-62039 Crystal, I think of you often and wish you peace.

]]> By: Sharon Guzman https://www.mrshappyhomemaker.com/strength-comes-later/#comment-62038 https://mrshappyhomemaker64452.e.wpstage.net/?p=11174#comment-62038 I understand what you have been through , I came home for work to find out my husband had died . People did not know what to say to me, they were very uncomfortable. I was just empty and it took a year before I was able to start moving forward, I agree, take all the time you need and feel every thing.Move forward when you are able,be kind to your self and love your children with all your heart .

]]> By: Kim https://www.mrshappyhomemaker.com/strength-comes-later/#comment-62036 https://mrshappyhomemaker64452.e.wpstage.net/?p=11174#comment-62036 I found your blog last year just after your husband passed away. I was looking for a squash casserole recipe. (Which I have made several times! ) I have thought of you and your children often. I can’t begin to imagine what you have been thru but pray that you will find strength and courage for you and your children. God bless you!

]]> By: Melinda Johnson https://www.mrshappyhomemaker.com/strength-comes-later/#comment-62035 https://mrshappyhomemaker64452.e.wpstage.net/?p=11174#comment-62035 amen, sister! I’ve been through some very rough times too. There’s a cycle of grief you continuously go through and revisit often. Not everything is ok. Not everything is good, and we need to acknowledge it. I’m sure most of us will realize that there is good in the world, but in the moment of grief, it’s just grief. Praying for healing for you, and the rest of us, as we learn to live with our grief, and for some of us, to lean on God in the process. Hugs!

]]> By: Linda https://www.mrshappyhomemaker.com/strength-comes-later/#comment-62034 https://mrshappyhomemaker64452.e.wpstage.net/?p=11174#comment-62034 What an inspiration you are to all of us.especially your children. Often times we think we must be strong for them but they need to know it is ok to cry. Only after the greif and pain have subsided, it never goes away, can you be strong. God bless you

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